My life is not so pretty anymore, and I love it. I have noticed that over the past years I have been trying to get everything together. Be as aestheticly beautiful as can be, but that did NOT make me happy. Everywhere you find these ‘influencers’ who make you feel like crap, like you need to have everything together. But that is just not life.
Over the last few months I moved out of my parents house. I moved into a building with my best friend. We party a lot. My room is often a mess and focussing on school is hard. During these corona times I find myself struggling to keep up with work and school and I often find myself falling behind.
I was dating someone, a really good guy. But I decided to break it off because I noticed that we didn’t really fit together. That hurt, it hurt really fucking bad. But it’s okay. It’s okay to hurt and it’s okay to not be okay. Love isn’t always going to work out. And I believe that every person you meet, leaves something for you to learn. Something that will help you grow. And for me that was the choice of going against my feelings and following my thoughts and knowledge. This is something people don’t talk about. Everyone tells you to follow your feelings, but no one ever tells you to stop and think about wtf you’re doing. I stopped, I thought and I figured out that we just didn’t understand eachother on a deeper level. And that I do want someone to understand me on that level. By taking my time to think, I could break things off before got hurt even more.
My routines are all over the place. Because I live with friends, every night is hang-out night. Which means I am definitely not waking up at 5am to drink lemon water and go for a run during the sunrise. NO.
I am so much happier now that I’ve been letting go of all that toxic control. I finally feel free and happy to live my life. Life is messy and I have to embrace that happiness.
Now, understand me well. I do not mean that I want to slack on everything and live my life being a fucking mess. But I have learned to embrace the unexpected things in life, embrace that I don’t always feel okay and embrace the fact that it is okay for me to be happy right now in the moment instead of always wanting, working and waiting for better things. I am also not complaining here. I am just telling the honest truth about my life, because I am sick of living a lie. I want everyone who reads this to know the real me. The real me who wears dirty oversized T-shirts, the real me who loves putting her feelings into poetry, the real me who rips her tights every. single. day. The real me who had red wine stains all over her curtains and who can’t live without coffee and powernaps.
this is the recipe for my FAVORITE bananabread, and it is ready within ONE hour!
I can’t even begin to explain how friggin much I love this bananabread. I make it for family and friends, AND it is also super healthy and filling. Are you curious already? Then lets get into it.
(the ingredients will be measured by grams not by cups, simply because I have no idea how to measure by cups.)
Ingredients (for one bread)
100g flour with baking powder included
60g dry oatmealflakes
3 bananas (the riper the better!)
Dash of salt
Warm the oven on 180 degrees celcius. Start with mashing the bananas in a bowl. Make sure they are wellmashed but leave some lumps in for extra texture. Put in the eggs and stir them with a fork or rubber spatula through the bananas. Add the flour and the oatmeal and stri until fully emerged. Then you add the cinnamon, nutmeg, honey and salt. This is completely up to you and your taste. Last, add the walnuts. Make sure to add a lot, because it really makes the bread nutty and crunchy. You can also add other nuts but I found that walnut soothed my taste the best. Now, pour the whole mixture into a baking tin and leave it in the oven for about 45 minutes. Make sure to check on it once in a while to make sure the top doesn’t burn. After 45 minutes, stick a toothpick into the bread, if it comes out clean, the bread is ready. Don’t forget to let it cool off for about 10 minutes!
save a few peaces of banana and a few walnuts to put on top of the cake for decoration.
let the bananas really really ripe before using them for this recipe. the bananas mainly make the bread sweet.
this bread goes really really well with some peanutbutter and a hazelnut latte.
there is no such thing as too much cinnamon.
this is a super cute gift with a nice card on the side. it really shows you put some effort into it.
If you decide to make this bread, make sure to post it and tag me, I love seeing your creations! Instagram: @nickyknols.
BOOST your health with these 4 delicious home-made drinks!
These days you scroll through instagram and see all the health gurus walking around with their healthy smoothies and juices. They tell you about how healthy they are and how much health benefits those smoothies bring you. So, you decide, I want one too. Because who doesn’t wants to be healthy right? You are all ready and go to the shop where all the gurus go, and then find out one juice costs $10. You buy them once, they don’t even taste that great and you easily spend loads of money.
So, if you are done with spending all your money on a good booster, or you are interested in how to create one fresh at home? Keep on scrolling.
“The greatest wealth, is health.”
Disclaimer: I am not saying that these drinks will cure any health issues. These drinks make ME feel good and that is why I share them.
Golden sunshine shot
Ever had a bloated stomach after having eaten too much the night before? Feeling a little guilty about having a binge? This healthshot will make you feel better in no time.
1/2 lemon squeezed
1 tsp. ginger powder or fresh shredded ginger
1/4 tsp. cayenne pepper
1/2 tsp. turmeric
dash of black pepper
splash of water
How: Squeeze the lemon into a little shotglass. Add the ginger, cayenne pepper and turmeric and give it a good stir. Then add the black pepper and a splash of water. Don’t add too much water or the shot will be hard to take down at once.
Why: The lemon and ginger are really good for detoxing and antioxidating. The lemon is perfect for calming your stomach and the turmeric is also a good detoxer. The ginger is good for relieving nauseau and inflammation. The cayenne pepper boosts your metabolism, helps digestion, lowers your bloodpressure and helps reduce hunger. The turmeric reduces inflammation, is highly antioxidating, improves brainfunction, lowers the risk of heart disease, shows increadible benefits against depression and delays aging.
“Put yourself at the top of your to-do list every day and the rest will fall into place.”
(ginger, if you like)
How: boil the water and squeeze the lemon into the water. I like to use fresh lemon but you can also use plain lemon juice from the store. I like to just put the juice in but you can also choose to put some slices of lemon into your water. Make sure to get the lemon seeds out beforehand.
Why: I drink this cozy drink EVERY morning. It is a really good detoxifier. It stimulates weightloss and improves your immunesystem. It also benefits skinhealth, promotes dehydration and lifts your mood.
Block of ginger (peeled)
How: Put the ingredients all together into a blender and blend until there are no more chunks (make sure to stir around to check if the ginger is fully emerged). Then get a sieve and lay it on top of a jar. Pour the liquid onto the sieve and press a little with a spoon. You can throw the pulp away and enjoy your fresh celery juice!
Why: celery is a very good source of minerals, vitamins and antioxidants. It is packed with vitamins and is very hydrating. It is good for digestion and a good source of fiber. The lemon and ginger makes it extra refreshing and hydrating.
Milk (soy, oat, almond, or whatever you like)
How: Foam the milk and add some turmeric and honey. The turmeric makes it taste really fresh and the honey gives it a sweet taste. The warm milk is just the cherry on top. (Btw, you won’t actually taste the milk-taste. I usually HATE drinking milk but this drink is just amazing.”
Why: like mentioned above turmeric reduces inflammation, is highly antioxidating, improves brainfunction, lowers the risk of heart disease, shows increadible benefits against depression and delays aging. The honey improves heart health, wound healing and blood antioxidant status.
These were the 4 health boosters I completely fell in love with! Now, if you have a recipe for a good make-at-home healthbooster, make sure to send me a message. Or if your decide to make one of the boosters, make sure to tag me in a picture! Instagram: @nickyknols.
We all know the sleepless nights. You keep tossing and turning and eventually you can see the sun starts to rise again and the birds start to sing. The next day you feel TRASHED and need the whole day to rest and sleep and you won’t be productive. I have dealt with TONS of those nights. Sometimes I would even get into a routine of having these nights regulary. At first, I tried fixing this with sleeping pills and trying to exhaust myself during the day. I would get into bed and feel so frustrated that eventhough I was exhausted, I couldn’t sleep. So, you may wonder, how did I fix this? Let me tell you all of my favorite hacks that I use daily to get a good night sleep. But first, lets do a little digging into what a good night of sleep actually can do for you.
“As the night gets darker, let your worries fade. Sleep pecefully, knowing that you have done all you can do for today.”
Sleeping is extremely important for your productivity and overall happiness. Science has proven that bad sleep can have numerous negative effects like weightgain, lack of focus and a weakened immune system. Sleep deprivation is caused by getting les than 7 hours of sleep on a regular basis. Here are some health problems that can come from sleep deprivation:
Weakened immunity (that can lead to diabetes and heart disease)
Low sex drive
Disclaimer: these are just hacks that work for ME. I am not telling you that you have to do these NOR am I responsible for your actions. Some people who suffer from sleep deprivation can have a sleep syndrome. A few of those syndromes are: restless leg syndrome, sleep apnea, seizures and movement disorders. If you can’t seem to get enough sleep during the night I reccomend talking to a doctor or specialist.
Now, how do I manage to get a good night of sleep?
I use lavender. TONS of lavender. I find it really relaxing.
I put a little of some lavenderessential oil into my airdiffuser at night.I also recentlybought a lavender essential oil roller which I roll behind my ears, on my wrists and on my chest. If you want to use lavender oil, make sure to get one that is safe to use on your skin because some can be toxic to use and can cause irritation. I use the “organic lavender sleep therapy aroma ball” by Dr. Organic. I have one on my nightstand and one in my purse.
Meditation or breathing excersizes. When I lay in bed and find my mind wandering around I like to focus on my breath. Since I meditate in the mornings I don’t do a full meditation, but by focussing on my breath I help my mind relax and it helps me get to sleep. If you find it hard to just focus on breathing it can help to count your breaths or quietly say a mantra.
Burn sage. Now this one it a little odd. But in the days where I found myself awake during the night, I had a lot of nightterrors. I don’t know where they came from but I everytime I closed my eyes I would see horrible images of demons and whenever I would fall asleep, every dream would turn into a terror. I was terrified of going back to sleep. I found that burning some sage really cleanses the energy in the room and by trusting it’s work, I found myself falling asleep easier. I also bought an angel crystal (Coelestien) and I found it really worked for me.
Digestion. So, whenenver you read a little about sleeping well, you often read “don’t eat for two hours before bed”. But yah, I can’t. My family often has dinner between 8 and 9, and I am going to bed at 10. But what I found really worked for me is moving a little before bed. Sometimes I walk but often I do a light strech which makes me feel less full and makes me fall asleep easy.
“Put your thoughts to sleep, do not let them cast a shadow over the moon of your heart. Let go of thinking.”
Something you also read often is putting away screens and hour before bed. But late night studies or work can make that difficult. That is why I always wear blue light glasses whenever I am working on my laptop or watching TV. I also like to read for 15 minutes before going to sleep to put my brain into rest-mood.
Create a sleepingschedule. This hack worked for me since the MOMENT I tried it and I have a really hard time giving up my schedule. I like to go to bed at 10pm and wake up at 6am every day. Your body will get used to your chosen time and going to sleep and waking up will be way easier. Ofcourse it is not always possible to maintain your sleeping schedule. For me it is whenever my boyfriend stays over that my schedule gets broken. But if you can maintain the schedule during the week and on the weekends cheat a little, it will still work.
So, these are the hacks I am currently using. I hope you enjoyed this article. If you have any tips or tricks for sleeping make sure to let me know!
Routines have always been a big part of my day. I love routines and everything surrounding them. But there was always one main factor that made me resent my routines: force. I used to think that I had to force myself into doing everything that succesful people were doing and my forcing myself to do the things that didn’t bring me joy, I would start the day off in a negative mindset.
But that all changed when I really started to understand the concept of “flow not force”. It is not about making excuses, it is about finding joy in life. So, what I decided to do is to create a new morning routine, containing only things that make me happy and make me feel calm. Let me show you what I created.
“The aim of life is happiness, not perfection.”
Now, right before we dig in to the morning routine I wanted to quickly explain something. I don’t go to work or school so I have a ton of time to have a slow morning routine. I understand that not everybody has that time so every habit I describe from my morning routine will include a tip on how to fit it into a quick schedule. Also, I highly recommend not just plain following my routine if it inspires you, but to be inspired by it and find out if there are habits that I am describing that YOU like and that make YOU feel happy.
I like to wake up really early in the morning because I find that I am way more productive during the day when I had an early start. When I wake up I aways take ONE look at my phone, just to make sure nothing urgent came in at night, before putting it away until I finish my habits.
The first 45 minutes of my morning is dedicated to cleansing. I love starting my day with a fresh clean slate. These are my cleansing habits:
Water and coffee: to reset my body for a new day I like to start my day off with drinking some water. Your body hasn’t hydrated in over 8 hours so this I necessary! I find that drinking water really wakes me up and makes me feel amazing. I also like to drink a coffee in the morning. It also wakes me up and it, well, cleanses my body and makes me feel ready for a fresh new day. TIP: this one is fairly easy to include in your morning routine because it is simply a drink. But, if you don’t have time in the mornings to drink your coffee, make a homemade icecoffee and put it in your bag the night before. Then you can drink your daily caffeineboost in the car or on the train.
Writing: after I made my coffee, the first thingI do is grab my notebook and writeeverything down. I am a very vivid dreamer so I like to write down all my dreams and analyse them for a bit. I also like to focus on how I am feeling thatday andwhat my intentions are for the day. TIP: Writing is one way to clear your mind. If you don’t have time to write in the mornings, then self-talk could be an option to you. Actlike you’re recording a podcast and simply talk oud loud to yourself. You can also record this if you’d like to listen back. This you can do in your car, on your bike or even walking.
Yoga: I NEED to strech in the morning. Usually when I wake up I feel a little soar from my workout from the day before and my muscles feel really tight from barely moving for 8 hours. I like to follow my own yogaflow and really feel what my body needs at that moment, but you can also follow a Yoga Youtube-video. My strech-routine changes every day. There are days where I love streching for half an hour and really take my time, but there are also days where my streches are about 5 minutes long. remember: flow, not force. TIP: like I said, your streches can only be 5 minutes. When I have a busy morning I also like to do this when my water is boiling for my tea, when my shower is heathening up or when my coffee is in the making.
Meditation: I love how clear my mind feels after a meditation. Now, I am not a patient person so meditating can be a struggle for me. But just 5-10 minutes of a guided meditation makes me feel SO good. I use the app “Calm” and it is rated as one of the best mindfulness apps. I have a subscribtion, but there are also tons of free meditations you can use. TIP: meditation does not just have to be sitting with your eyes closed and breathing. The app ‘Calm’ that I am using also has walking meditations or mindfulness meditations for when you are at work. You can do this on your lunchbreak or whenever you have a second to spare.
After the first part of my morning routine that focusses on cleansing, I start ‘putting in’. I know this sounds really weird but bare with me. The first part of my morning is centered about cleansing my body and my mind, and the second part is all about putting the good information and food in again. These are my ‘putting in’ (lol) habits:
Hot lemon water: When I start the second fase of my morning, I like to have a comforting drink with me. I love hot lemon water because it is so easy to make and it kinda feels like it is ‘coating’ my stomach. It is full of antioxidants and it prepares your body for breakfast. It is really good to have some kind of fruit first, before breakfast, to prevent bloating and stomach aching. I also find it really southing todrink something warm while doing my next habit. TIP: now I understand that if you have a busy morning, you certainly do not have time for TWO drinks. So, bring some slices of lemon with you in your lunchbox. If you go to work or school they often have an option for tea in the lunchroom. Put your lemon slices in there instead of tea and you’re good to go.
Reading: This is probably my favorite habit. I love love love to read in the morning and put positive thoughts and information into my mind. I always love to read a fiction and a non-fiction book at the same time so I don’t ‘get bored’. I read one chapter of each book in the morning and it sets me of to a good start. TIP:another way to fuel your mind with books is listening to audiobooks. I won’t start rambling on about audiobooks as I am certain that you’ve already heard about them. I also really like to listen to podcasts. My favorites are: the health code, kalyn’s coffeetalks, potterless, your own magic and the mustards.
Breakfast: I absolutely NEED to eat a good breakfast in the morning. I don’t have one breakfast I eat everyday, but I mainly just listen to my body and what I am craving that day. But, I always love some avocado toast, oatmeal, yoghurt or a fresh smoothie. I love to create a healthy breakfast to fuel me and get me going. I generally never crave things like chocolate or pancakes so it really isn’t that hard for me to start the day healthy. TIP: now, I’ve heard SO many people tell me that they don’t have time to make breakfast in the morning. If intermitted fasting is your thing than you should definitely do that. But if you’re like me and simply can’t go without a good breakfast then I can highly recommend you one simple thing. meal. prep. I KNOW, eyeroll , eyeroll, because you’ve probably heard it everywhere. And I understand that you don’t have the time or energy to spend your free time making meals for the whole week. But this does not have to be hard. The night before, put everything for your smoothie in a bowl. Make some simple overnight oats, or take 15 minutes to bake a simple bananabread that you can take to work every day of the week. (This recipe is Dutch but I have been making this bananabread and it is AMAZING: https://www.lekkerensimpel.com/bananencake-met-blauwe-bessen/ ).
GYM-TIME: I know, you probably think: “What happened between 07:30AM and 09:00AM?!” but let me explain. After my breakfast I usually put on my workout-clothes, brush my teeth and wash my face. And then I start working on my to-do list. But at 9AM I like to go to the gym. Because I work from home, I have the freedom to make my own schedule and I always go around 9AM because that’s when a lot of people go to work and there are a lot less people at the gym. Because I live in a small village, the gym is very small. It is basically one room with all the equipment in it, so it can very easily become very crowded. I love to workout in the mornings because it gives me the endorfine-boost to go through my day with an extra big smile on my face. Also, if I postpone my workout until the evening, I most likely end up making an excuse and then not going. TIP: working-out can be quite a struggle for some people, which is totally understandable. I have the time to go to the gym and have a 60min+ workout, but if you don’t have that time HIIT work-outs are the perfect solution for you. HIIT stands for High Intensity Interval Training. HIIT workout are often short (10-20min) and keep your heartrait really high. If having an intens work-out just isn’t your thing, it may be nice to go for a walk on your lunchbreak or take the stairs a little more often. Just simple everyday things to keep moving!
After my work-out I just get ready and get on with my day. Now a little disclaimer: I do not do this every day! This is more or less a guideline for me to follow and something I naturally love doing. But if I wake up and I am super soar and feel like I just need a stretch, THEN I GO AND STRETCH. Remember, it is all about feeling good and being happy.
So, to wrap this routine up, I highly encourage your to feel your flow and make yourself happy. If you haven’t heard this today: you are valuable by simply being you. You don’t need to achieve high standards or look a certain way to be loved and valuable to this world.
“If flowers can be beautiful by simply existing, then so can I”
We made it through the discussion of the physical war. But I am not done, we still have got the social war to open our perspectives to. You have probably already seen it, heard it and probably even felt it a hundred times. The quotes “Be yourself” “Don’t compare yourself to people on social media” “Don’t be jealous, your succes will come in your own time” and eventhough we want to believe them, we’ve all shared an eyeroll or two when we hear yet another motivational speaker talk about it.
And yes, this too is a war. We all try to be better than the rest and we even like the competition, but only as long as we’re in the game. We’ve all felt jealous of that gorgeous Victoria’s Secret model, living in Bali and making money with wearing a coconut bikini. And because of that, we scroll through their pages, hoping to find a photo of her with a pimple, or with tanlines or whatever. And when we finally find that imperfection, we can’t f*king wait to comment it under her photo. How much would the social game change if we unanimously decided to get inspired by other people? If we stoped hoping for that bikinimodel to fail and started hoping for her to make it.
I KNOW, eyeroll, eyeroll, eyeroll. I am not trying to paint a perfect picture here. But how would you feel? If you see that pimple, and eventhough you feel jealous and want to point her imperfection out. If you instead would comment or send her a message about how inspiring you think she is, how you admire her lifestyle and if she maybe could give you some tips?
Because you won’t be focussing on the negative, eventhough your feelings may be negative, your actions are positive and so will you feel. AND if she does give you those tips, you may actually find yourself creating that life you’re dreaming about!
Focussing on the negative and jealousy, can really harm our mental health. You may not notice it right away, but through time you’ll see. I admit, I also tend to downtalk myself whenever I see someone who I FEEL LIKE is better than me. I put “i feel like” in capslock because this is not true. Just because someone has a fitter physique than me, does not mean that they are more worth, are a better person, or are less flawed, than me.
The next thing I wanted to talk about, is not just downtalking yourself TO yourself, but downtalking yourself towards others. This is something I notice all around me. In this day and age we are afraid to “try to hard” or let other people know we care too much. So, when we try something new, we are tempted to say “I am really bad at this” or “I will probably fail hahahaha.” But I actually don’t think it is that funny. You are allowed to feel confident and to trust yourself and your capabilities. Being proud at yourself does not make you a bitch and trying and failing does not make you weak.
The social war is one everyone sees, meets and knows. But when are we starting to do something about it. Mental health is a serious issue and is just as important as your physical health. So, I hope you’ll think twice next time you start to doubt yourself because of someone elses fake reality.
Disclaimer: I respect everyones opinions and beliefs, this is my opinion and I don’t mean to provoke any harmful feelings.
It is no news that there are wars and deaths spreading over this world. Every night you watch the news, every time you check your phone, you’ll stumble onto some kind of war. Now, for me there are three kinds of wars:
The physical war. The war between countries and people. The war where people are killed by one another.
The social war. The war between who is better, who can show others the best that they are living the perfect life and who can make other people the worst about themselves.
The individual war. The war you have with yourself on your way to becoming who you really are.
Now I will write about these wars in three separate articles. This article is about the first war, the physical war.
Lets talk about the physical war. People kill people. And why? Because of people. Now, if you would ask ANYONE, literally anyone, what their perfect world would look like. They would all say that they just want to be happy. Because that is all anyone wants. Now ofcourse there are a thousand different definitions of happy. One persons definition of happy is a lot of money and big cars, another persons definition of happy is a puppy or the smell of freshly cut grass. Ofcourse it is different. But we all crave for that feeling of joy, that feeling of fulfillment. But I wonder, why people think that they can find fulfillment in other peoples misery.
A lot of people will call ‘hurters’ (this is how I call people who kill people) the word mental. Which I do not think is correct. People with mental disorders aren’t ‘hurters’ or ‘killers’, they are just weaker in that moment for the influence of the negativity of this world. I think that most of the ‘hurters’ are completely sane people, with just a different perspective on life. Now, do not think that I am defending them because I completely disagree with hurting people in any shape or form. But I am wondering about the reasoning behind it. Because we can protect and protect and protect the people who may get hurt, but if we never look behind the curtain to find the reason behind the hurting, than how will we ever prevent? But this is a topic for a whole other article.
And, lets not forget that even if we wouldn’t kill our own, a ton of people would still die. It is like a football-team scoring in their own goal. We are killing our own team.
Humanity has so much to fight for and fight against, and still we are decreasing our chances. Because that one person that was killed 2 seconds ago, could’ve been the one person to find out how we could live on another planet or how the universe exists.
One major life killer, actually the most dangerous animal of all, is an animal so small you’d laugh at it. But if the animal is in your room at night, it will stop you from falling asleep. You would be shaking from frustration and keep keep keep looking for it. And when you finally get the chance to catch a glimpse, you’ll know how small the chances are that you’ll catch it.
It is the mosquito.
The mosquito kills more people than people do. It also kills more people than sharks do in a century. Great leaders have suffered and died of malaria and yellow fever. And even I wouldn’t be writing this here and now, if my mother made the decision to get on a plain instead of staying in the hospital. My dad also suffered from malaria 12 times, and because of good medicine and healthcare he survived. Every two minutes a child dies from the bite of a mosquito, and I am not the only one who thinks this is too much.
This disease kills millions of people a year and instead of fighting the mosquito with all we have, we help it kill humanity. One thing you may not know, is that malaria is a disease that can be prevented. A disease that we as humans can erase from this world. So, this is why I am creating Bloody Good. We can stand tall and fight everything the world has against us, as long as we stand together.
Bloody Good is really starting now, so only a little more until we can finally launch. Stay tuned!
I will upload another article about the second war. The social war. Follow me on this blog and my social media to stay updated.
When winter comes around, I am a sucker for seasonal depression. I need my sun and my light. So, when I feel down I love to reorganize my life. These are the things I love to do to feel in control of my life again.
Bucketlist Every month or every season I make myself a bucketlist. I write down everything I want to do that period, especially the things I wouldn’t normally do.
Daily planning Something I do everyday is planning my day. Knowing what I want to achieve and having everything written down makes me feel organized and ready to start. I also make sure to include at least one thing from my bucketlist.
Mealplanning There has been a lot of buzz around mealprepping lately. And I have found it really hard since I still live with my parents. Something I really like is to write down in my notes what I eat in a day. Also I look in the fridge the night before and figure out a nice and healthy breakfast that gets me excited to wake up in the morning.
Calendar This one is so important. I always have some kind of calendar or agenda with me. Make sure you write every appointment down so you won’t double schedule. This way you will feel much more organized and on point. This also makes sure you don’t shedule two things at the same time.
One big ass clean So to start off. Take one or to days to declutter EVERYTHING. If you live on your own this will take longer than when you’re living with your parents. I stil live with my parents so I only have to clean my own room. Make sure to declutter in sections. For example start with decluttering your closet. Take everything out, clean the whole closet, sort out your clothes and put everything back in. When the whole closet is done, move on to the next section. Also have one big trash bag with you so you can throw away the unwanted stuff immediately.
Twice a week whipe It is very important to clean your environment, and keep it clean. So pick out two days a week where you just take a cloth and some cleaning spray and have a 10 minute clean. This will help you feel organized throughout the whole week and not just after you had you spring cleaning.
Regular decluttering Once a month, declutter your closet and desk. Just look through what you have and what doesn’t serve you anymore. You can also put the clothes you’re not sure about in a trash bag and put it away in the garage. Set a reminder for a month later and if you haven’t felt the urge to get a piece of clothing from that bag in 4 weeks, throw it away.
Workouts Find your thing. Everyone has their own way of working out. Working out is really good for you mental and physical health. But don’t start doing a certain workout you hate. Ofcourse I think you should experiment, and sometimes you just won’t feel like working out. But if you hate running, don’t run. For example, I love to dance. So I dance. I move my body.
Don’t caloriecount I never count my calories. Ain’t nobody got time for that. I do know what is going into my body and I am very aware to eat healthy foods, but calorie counting will just make you afraid of food. Instead, just write down what you eat in a day and look back at how healthy you did. Don’t feel bad if you haven’t had such an healthy day, but see where you can improve yourself.
Meditation This is so good for your mental health and will keep you calm through the day to slay your life. You don’t have to sit there for hours. Just a few minutes every morning will make a huge difference.
Style Find out what fits you. This is the fun part. You can experiment with a hundred different styles. Look at what colors suite your skintone and which materials you like to wear.
Here a few styling tips to look and feel more in control:
Choose good materials.
Don’t wear different shades of jewelry together. Choose between gold, silver or rose gold.
Don’t have too much going on. Choose one piece of clothing or jewelry where you want to focus the attention on.
Wash and iron your clothes. Never wear dirty or wrinkled clothes.
Clean out you bag every night so you’ll just have what you need and you won’t feel dirty.
Go for comfortable and stylish. Don’t wear clothes you don’t feel comfortable in cause it will show.
Hair Haircare is something that is been overlooked by so many people. But it is actually just as important as skincare. Have a good leave in hair oil for everyday applying. Be kind and patient and go to the hairdresser every few months.
Hygene Shower every day. Studies have shown that people are way more productive when they’re clean. So take a shower. Brush your teeth and do your skincare. No excuses just do it.
Look Have a golden look on the world. This is your life and you, only you, are in control. See the world as a place to bloom and experience all these magical things. Make your own happy moments and opportunities.
Positivity Find your way to positivity. Look at your problems with a solving mindset and get the best out of every day.
Files We all know the struggle of losing important papers and cards and stressing out over not being able to find them. One good binder or filer will change your life. Just having one place for all of your important stuff is so important. In my binder I have the compartments: “Work” where I keep all my contracts and stuff, “Buying” where I keep all my important receipts, “Cards” where I keep all my important businesscards, etc. etc.
When starting a business, it can be really helpful to have a team supporting you. A team of different people, with different perspectives and different values. But, how do you find those people?
It can be really hard to get out there in the first place. And if you’re eventually went out, how do you approach? I will talk a lot about how to act and what to do at networking events, but read till the end for some tips on how to find and get to networking events.
1. YES attitude
First of all it is important to grab your opportunities by the balls. Ofcourse the occasional self-care night at home is nice, but when someone invites you out, don’t say no right away. Take a moment and look at all the good things that can happen if you go out. Remember, the biggest regrets are about the things you didn’t do. This also counts for the moment someone tries to open a conversation with you.
2. Take the risk
When it comes down to starting a conversation, just take the risk. You’re probably scared to be rejected by the other person, but the chance of being rejected is actually much smaller than you may think. Big chance that person is also waiting for someone to make a move. Not only is taking the risk worth it at specific events. You can start a conversation with the person sitting next to you on the train or someone waiting with you in line at the store. If the other person doesn’t feel like talking you’ll know soon enough and you’ve got nothing to lose.
3. Practice wearing heels
This one obviously only counts if you’re a woman, or if you’re a man who likes to wear heels. And this one may be a long shot. But really, practice. At a networking party you want to look classy and confident, I personally always like to wear heels because they make me feel feminine and empowerd. When networking you want to be fully present in the occuring conversation and don’t want to be stumbling around with hurting feet.
4. 3 guards
When networking, have 3 guards for your mouth; nice, honesty and necessity. This means, before you say anything, ask yourself: is it nice? is it honest? and is it necessary? This way you won’t regret the things you say.
5. Ask but tell
First of all it is really important to ask a lot. People like to talk about themselves and it makes them feel good. When someone feels good in a conversation, they will get more engaged and it will become easier. The tell part means, tell them about your dreams and about the topics the other person can help you in. For example: you’re talking to a publisher. Your dream has always been to publish a book. Ask them how the job is, what the hardest and the best parts of the job are and wether or not they always wanted to be a publisher. Then you tell him or her that it has always been a dream of yours to publish a book and what criteria you will have to fullfil. This way the publisher knows you’re interested and will be more likely to help you on your way.
6. Practice posture
It is really important to know what vibe you’re sending out. If you are standing tall and confident, people will be more tempted to come over and talk to you than when you are “hiding” yourself by crossing your arms in front of you or bowing your head. Stand tall and smile, you are worthy of being here and there is no one who can stop you from being you.
7. Bring evidence
If you are going out to network to promote your business it is really important to have evidence that you are serious. When you find that person you can help you, you want them to stick with you. So, bring a small version of the product you’re making or a businessplan. This will show the person that this is not simply an idea but a real business. For example I always carry some of the stones the artist made with me, just in case I meet someone who is interested.
8. Bring businesscards
Like I told you, if you meet someone who seems interested in helping you, you want them to stick with you. By giving them a businesscard, it will be easier for them to contact you. Even if the other person didn’t bring a businesscard, you can write their information on the back of one of the cards.
9. Be who you are and not who you think you should be
Certain network events can be really overwhelming. It is easy to find yourself being nervous and afraid that people won’t like you for who you are. But let me tell you, the people who don’t like you for who you are really don’t matter. The only people you can build on and grow with are the people who appreciate you for who you are.
Ofcourse you are at a networking event to network and find people and opinions for you business. But it is also important to help other people out. Ofcourse you shouldn’t dim your light so others can shine, but you will create a real bond with someone the moment you teach them something or help them out with a problem. If you help someone out, they will also be more likely to help you out when in need.
So, almost all of the tips above are about networking events and how to act on them. But how do you actually get to networking events? how to find them? Well, to be honest I am very fortunate to have parents who go to a lot of events and invite me with. But if you are not that fortunate here are some tips:
Tell people! When you talk to your friends, family and basically anyone, tell them that you are looking for networking events and why. It is nothing to be ashamed of and maybe the person who can introduce you to the events has been right in front of you all along!
Google. This one you probably could’ve thought of yourself. Google on networking events near your city and just go and check them out.
Ask for help. If you admire someone, and you wonder where they go to network, just email them. You’ll be amazed at how many people really want to help you. And if that person doesn’t reply, well you’ve lost 5 minutes of your time.
Like I said before, you can also just network on the train or at the local store. If you’re in school you also have a lot of people who can help you out. For me, I work at home, it can be hard to get out there and network. But if I want to get out I’ll just go for a walk or to the library. You can also discuss business at party’s.
And last, but very much not least. Network online! Make sure your social media is on point and contact people. In this time and age it is very important to have your social media together. Know your platforms and use them to tell people what you’re doing with your business. Even if you’ve only got 3 followers! If someone is interested in you or your business, they will go straight to your social media to find more about it.