ways to SIMPLIFY your LIFE

Feeling a little overwhelmed from time to time? Read and find out my favorite ways to ease my life.

largeLife can be overwhelming, who doesn’t know. Sometimes it can already be overwhelming to come home into a space filled with clutter and loud colors. I found that when I started to simplify my life and my environment, I found a certain sence of calm. These days everyone wants more, everyone wants to be louder and everyone wants to tell you that you have to do more and more and more. But not anymore.

 

“All your little life choices made it so that you would be reading this article right now. One different choice and you would have never landed here. Take this as a sign to breathe and let life be a little simple today.”

Say NO to things that don’t please you

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This is the first thing and one of the most important. You have probably heard this one a thousand times, but hear me out. If someone asks you to do something, that you really don’t want to do. Then say no. Now, don’t get me wrong, I am encouraging you to be and stay polite. But your own happiness comes first.

These days, all the influencers, your family, your friends, everybody, tries to tell you what to do. “Wake up early, wake up earlier, wake up earliest.” “Read a book, read two books, read ten books.” “Eat healthy, eat vegeterian, eat vegan.” NO. Find whatever suits YOU. Find what makes you happy and do exactly that. Your life is about finding YOUR happiness and YOUR purpose. Find your own habits and your own sparks of joy.

Fill your life with joy

Now, simplicity is often mistaken for throwing everything out. Instead, look at is as only keeping what serves you. Only filling your life with little pieces of joy. Here are a few excersizes I did:

  • Take everything of your surfaces in a room and lay everything in the 900808db33ccfd235fb0adc703a6bb9cmiddle of the room. Now sit down and one by one grab something from the middle of the room and think about wether or not it truely makes you happy. If it does, keep it. If it doesn’t, throw it out.
  • Quality over Quantity. Back in the days I loved to shop shop shop, the more the better. But lately I have found that I enjoy long lasting, high quality pieces way better.
  • Stop constantly trying to figure out who you are.

 

 

“Stop saying ‘yes’ out od obligation, fear or guilt.”

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Find what calms you down

For me, it is white and cleanliness. Whenever my surroundings are minimal and clean, my mind is so too. Find what makes you feal calm and find a way to surround yourself with exactly that.

Bye Bye to the toxic

Take a little moment to write down what makes you feel held back. Sometimes I get just get this stressed and overwhelmed feeling. Whenever I get that feeling, I take a moment and write down all the things that make me feel that way. It can be a person, a task, a situation, anything. Then I write down what I can do about it, and i do that, IMMEDIATELY.

Sometimes it can be hard to eliminate the toxic. Especially if it is a friend or family member. But remember, you are the only one who carries the complete responsibility over your situation.

Do one thing at a time

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Watching netflix while summarizing? Listening to a podcast while trying to finish that assignment? It is so easy to try and multitask during boring tasks. But let me tell you. Whenever you focus on one thing at a time, you will be way more focussed, get your boring task done faster and your mind will be clearer and less stressed. Taking your time to do one thing at a time may feel less productive at the time, but you’ll get way more done.

“It’s never too late to become who you should be.”

Take some time to do soulsearching

5d5072fe5fc661bc645e35f555febdd5This may sound a little too spiritual for you, and that is okay. All this means is take some time, everyday, to focus on you. Do something that get’s you in a flow where you can simply be. This way it is easier to find out what makes you truely happy and find your peace throughout life. For me it really wors to take some time to write, read or meditate. Dancing and writing also brings me in a good flow. Feel free to experiment and look for different kinds of excersizes and flows

 

 

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Know that you look absolutely amazing, whatever you wear. You don’t have to wear clothes that are in style to fit in. Wear what makes YOU feel good and confident. Less is more, and more is more. It is up to you.

These are my tips for simplifying your life. Let me know if you have any more tips!

I wish you all the stars,

-N

My happy morning routine

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“Flow, not Force”

Routines have always been a big part of my day. I love routines and everything surrounding them. But there was always one main factor that made me resent my routines: force. I used to think that I had to force myself into doing everything that succesful people were doing and my forcing myself to do the things that didn’t bring me joy, I would start the day off in a negative mindset.

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But that all changed when I really started to understand the concept of “flow not force”. It is not about making excuses, it is about finding joy in life. So, what I decided to do is to create a new morning routine, containing only things that make me happy and make me feel calm. Let me show you what I created.

“The aim of life is happiness, not perfection.”

Now, right before we dig in to the morning routine I wanted to quickly explain something. I don’t go to work or school so I have a ton of time to have a slow morning routine. I understand that not everybody has that time so every habit I describe from my morning routine will include a tip on how to fit it into a quick schedule. Also, I highly recommend not just plain following my routine if it inspires you, but to be inspired by it and find out if there are habits that I am describing that YOU like and that make YOU feel happy. 

06:00AM

I like to wake up really early in the morning because I find that I am way more productive during the day when I had an early start. When I wake up I aways take ONE look at my phone, just to make sure nothing urgent came in at night, before putting it away until I finish my habits. 

The first 45 minutes of my morning is dedicated to cleansing. I love starting my day with a fresh clean slate.  These are my cleansing habits:

  • Water and coffee: to reset my body for a new day I like to start my day off with drinking some water. Your body hasn’t hydrated in over 8 hours so this I necessary! I find that drinking water really wakes me up and makes me feel amazing. I also like to drink a coffee in the morning. It also wakes me up and it, well, cleanses my body and makes me feel ready for a fresh new day. TIP: this one is fairly easy to include in your morning routine because it is simply a drink. But, if you don’t have time in the mornings to drink your coffee, make a homemade icecoffee and put it in your bag the night before. Then you can drink your daily caffeineboost in the car or on the train.
  • Writing: after I made my coffee, the first thingI do is grab my notebook and writeeverything down. I am a very vivid dreamer so I like to write down all my dreams and analyse them for a bit. I also like to focus on how I am feeling thatday andwhat my intentions are for the day. TIP: Writing is one way to clear your mind. If you don’t have time to write in the mornings, then self-talk could be an option to you. Actlike you’re recording a podcast and simply talk oud loud to yourself. You can also record this if you’d like to listen back. This you can do in your car, on your bike or even walking.
  • Yoga: I NEED to strech in the morning. Usually when I wake up I feel a little soar from my workout from the day before and my muscles feel really tight from barely moving for 8 hours. I like to follow my own yogaflow and really feel what my body needs at that moment, but you can also follow a Yoga Youtube-video. My strech-routine changes every day. There are days where I love streching for half an hour and really take my time, but there are also days where my streches are about 5 minutes long. remember: flow, not force. TIP: like I said, your streches can only be 5 minutes. When I have a busy morning I also like to do this when my water is boiling for my tea, when my shower is heathening up or when my coffee is in the making.
  • Meditation: I love how clear my mind feels after a meditation. Now, I am not a patient person so meditating can be a struggle for me. But just 5-10 minutes of a guided meditation makes me feel SO good. I use the app “Calm” and it is rated as one of the best mindfulness apps. I have a subscribtion, but there are also tons of free meditations you can use. TIP: meditation does not just have to be sitting with your eyes closed and breathing. The app ‘Calm’ that I am using also has walking meditations or mindfulness meditations for when you are at work. You can do this on your lunchbreak or whenever you have a second to spare.

06:45AM 

After the first part of my morning routine that focusses on cleansing, I start ‘putting in’. I know this sounds really weird but bare with me. The first part of my morning is centered about cleansing my body and my mind, and the second part is all about putting the good information and food in again. These are my ‘putting in’ (lol) habits:

  • Hot lemon water: When I start the second fase of my morning, I like to have a comforting drink with me. I love hot lemon water because it is so easy to make and it kinda feels like it is ‘coating’ my stomach. It is full of antioxidants and it prepares your body for breakfast. It is really good to have some kind of fruit first, before breakfast, to prevent bloating and stomach aching. I also find it really southing todrink something warm while doing my next habit. TIP: now I understand that if you have a busy morning, you certainly do not have time for TWO drinks. So, bring some slices of lemon with you in your lunchbox. If you go to work or school they often have an option for tea in the lunchroom. Put your lemon slices in there instead of tea and you’re good to go.
  • Reading: This is probably my favorite habit. Processed with VSCO with a6 presetI love love love to read in the morning and put positive thoughts and information into my mind. I always love to read a fiction and a non-fiction book at the same time so I don’t ‘get bored’. I read one chapter of each book in the morning and it sets me of to a good start. TIP:another way to fuel your mind with books is listening to audiobooks. I won’t start rambling on about audiobooks as I am certain that you’ve already heard about them. I also really like to listen to podcasts. My favorites are: the health code, kalyn’s coffeetalks, potterless, your own magic and the mustards.
  • Breakfast: I absolutely NEED to eat a good breakfast in the morning. I don’t have one breakfast I eat everyday, but I mainly just listen to my body and what I am craving that day. But, I always love some avocado toast, oatmeal, yoghurt or a fresh smoothie. I love to create a healthy breakfast to fuel me and get me going. I generally never crave things like chocolate or pancakes so it really isn’t that hard for me to start the day healthy. TIP: now, I’ve heard SO many people tell me that they don’t have time to make breakfast in the morning. If intermitted fasting is your thing than you should definitely do that. But if you’re like me and simply can’t go without a good breakfast then I can highly recommend you one simple thing. meal. prep. I KNOW, eyeroll , eyeroll, because you’ve probably heard it everywhere. And I understand that you don’t have the time or energy to spend your free time making meals for the whole week. But this does not have to be hard. The night before, put everything for your smoothie in a bowl. Make some simple overnight oats, or take 15 minutes to bake a simple bananabread that you can take to work every day of the week. (This recipe is Dutch but I have been making this bananabread and it is AMAZING: https://www.lekkerensimpel.com/bananencake-met-blauwe-bessen/ ).

09:00AM 

GYM-TIME: I know, you probably think: “What happened between 07:30AM and 09:00AM?!” but let me explain. After my breakfast I usually put on my workout-clothes, brush my teeth and wash my face. And then I start working on my to-do list. But at 9AM I like to go to the gym. Because I work from home, I have the freedom to make my own schedule and I always go around 9AM because that’s when a lot of people go to work and there are a lot less people at the gym. Because I live in a small village, the gym is very small. It is basically one room with all the equipment in it, so it can very easily become very crowded. I love to workout in the mornings because it gives me the endorfine-boost to go through my day with an extra big smile on my face. Also, if I postpone my workout until the evening, I most likely end up making an excuse and then not going. TIP: working-out can be quite a struggle for some people, which is totally understandable. I have the time to go to the gym and have a 60min+ workout, but if you don’t have that time HIIT work-outs are the perfect solution for you. HIIT stands for High Intensity Interval Training. HIIT workout are often short (10-20min) and keep your heartrait really high. If having an intens work-out just isn’t your thing, it may be nice to go for a walk on your lunchbreak or take the stairs a little more often. Just simple everyday things to keep moving!

After my work-out I just get ready and get on with my day. Now a little disclaimer: I do not do this every day! This is more or less a guideline for me to follow and something I naturally love doing. But if I wake up and I am super soar and feel like I just need a stretch, THEN I GO AND STRETCH. Remember, it is all about feeling good and being happy. 

So, to wrap this routine up, I highly encourage your to feel your flow and make yourself happy. If you haven’t heard this today: you are valuable by simply being you. You don’t need to achieve high standards or look a certain way to be loved and valuable to this world.

“If flowers can be beautiful by simply existing, then so can I”

I wish you all the stars,

-N.

How to get in control

how to be a boss and get your sh*t together.

When winter comes around, I am a sucker for seasonal depression. I need my sun and my light. So, when I feel down I love to reorganize my life. These are the things I love to do to feel in control of my life again.

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Planning

Bucketlist 
Every month or every season I make myself a bucketlist. I write down everything I want to do that period, especially the things I wouldn’t normally do.

Daily planning 
Something I do everyday is planning my day. Knowing what I want to achieve and having everything written down makes me feel organized and ready to start. I also make sure to include at least one thing from my bucketlist.

Mealplanning 
There has been a lot of buzz around mealprepping lately. And I have found it really hard since I still live with my parents. Something I really like is to write down in my notes what I eat in a day. Also I look in the fridge the night before and figure out a nice and healthy breakfast that gets me excited to wake up in the morning.

Calendar 
This one is so important. I always have some kind of calendar or agenda with me. Make sure you write every appointment down so you won’t double schedule. This way you will feel much more organized and on point. This also makes sure you don’t shedule two things at the same time.

Environment

One big ass clean 
So to start off. Take one or to days to declutter EVERYTHING. If you live on your own this will take longer than when you’re living with your parents. I stil live with my parents so I only have to clean my own room. Make sure to declutter in sections. For example start with decluttering your closet. Take everything out, clean the whole closet, sort out your clothes and put everything back in. When the whole closet is done, move on to the next section. Also have one big trash bag with you so you can throw away the unwanted stuff immediately.

Twice a week whipe 
It is very important to clean your environment, and keep it clean. So pick out two days a week where you just take a cloth and some cleaning spray and have a 10 minute clean. This will help you feel organized throughout the whole week and not just after you had you spring cleaning.

Regular decluttering 
Once a month, declutter your closet and desk. Just look through what you have and what doesn’t serve you anymore. You can also put the clothes you’re not sure about in a trash bag and put it away in the garage. Set a reminder for a month later and if you haven’t felt the urge to get a piece of clothing from that bag in 4 weeks, throw it away.

Health

Workouts 
Find your thing. Everyone has their own way of working out. Working out is really good for you mental and physical health. But don’t start doing a certain workout you hate. Ofcourse I think you should experiment, and sometimes you just won’t feel like working out. But if you hate running, don’t run. For example, I love to dance. So I dance. I move my body.

Don’t caloriecount 
I never count my calories. Ain’t nobody got time for that. I do know what is going into my body and I am very aware to eat healthy foods, but calorie counting will just make you afraid of food. Instead, just write down what you eat in a day and look back at how healthy you did. Don’t feel bad if you haven’t had such an healthy day, but see where you can improve yourself.

Meditation 
This is so good for your mental health and will keep you calm through the day to slay your life. You don’t have to sit there for hours. Just a few minutes every morning will make a huge difference.

Looks

Style 
Find out what fits you. This is the fun part. You can experiment with a hundred different styles. Look at what colors suite your skintone and which materials you like to wear.

Here a few styling tips to look and feel more in control:

  • Choose good materials.
  • Don’t wear different shades of jewelry together. Choose between gold, silver or rose gold.
  • Don’t have too much going on. Choose one piece of clothing or jewelry where you want to focus the attention on.
  • Wash and iron your clothes. Never wear dirty or wrinkled clothes.
  • Clean out you bag every night so you’ll just have what you need and you won’t feel dirty.
  • Go for comfortable and stylish. Don’t wear clothes you don’t feel comfortable in cause it will show.

Hair 
Haircare is something that is been overlooked by so many people. But it is actually just as important as skincare. Have a good leave in hair oil for everyday applying. Be kind and patient and go to the hairdresser every few months.

Hygene 
Shower every day. Studies have shown that people are way more productive when they’re clean. So take a shower. Brush your teeth and do your skincare. No excuses just do it.

Mindset

Look 
Have a golden look on the world. This is your life and you, only you, are in control. See the world as a place to bloom and experience all these magical things. Make your own happy moments and opportunities.

Positivity 
Find your way to positivity. Look at your problems with a solving mindset and get the best out of every day.

Files 
We all know the struggle of losing important papers and cards and stressing out over not being able to find them. One good binder or filer will change your life. Just having one place for all of your important stuff is so important. In my binder I have the compartments: “Work” where I keep all my contracts and stuff, “Buying” where I keep all my important receipts, “Cards” where I keep all my important businesscards, etc. etc.

Thank you for reading,

To the stars and back, 


– N