ways to SIMPLIFY your LIFE

Feeling a little overwhelmed from time to time? Read and find out my favorite ways to ease my life.

largeLife can be overwhelming, who doesn’t know. Sometimes it can already be overwhelming to come home into a space filled with clutter and loud colors. I found that when I started to simplify my life and my environment, I found a certain sence of calm. These days everyone wants more, everyone wants to be louder and everyone wants to tell you that you have to do more and more and more. But not anymore.

 

“All your little life choices made it so that you would be reading this article right now. One different choice and you would have never landed here. Take this as a sign to breathe and let life be a little simple today.”

Say NO to things that don’t please you

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This is the first thing and one of the most important. You have probably heard this one a thousand times, but hear me out. If someone asks you to do something, that you really don’t want to do. Then say no. Now, don’t get me wrong, I am encouraging you to be and stay polite. But your own happiness comes first.

These days, all the influencers, your family, your friends, everybody, tries to tell you what to do. “Wake up early, wake up earlier, wake up earliest.” “Read a book, read two books, read ten books.” “Eat healthy, eat vegeterian, eat vegan.” NO. Find whatever suits YOU. Find what makes you happy and do exactly that. Your life is about finding YOUR happiness and YOUR purpose. Find your own habits and your own sparks of joy.

Fill your life with joy

Now, simplicity is often mistaken for throwing everything out. Instead, look at is as only keeping what serves you. Only filling your life with little pieces of joy. Here are a few excersizes I did:

  • Take everything of your surfaces in a room and lay everything in the 900808db33ccfd235fb0adc703a6bb9cmiddle of the room. Now sit down and one by one grab something from the middle of the room and think about wether or not it truely makes you happy. If it does, keep it. If it doesn’t, throw it out.
  • Quality over Quantity. Back in the days I loved to shop shop shop, the more the better. But lately I have found that I enjoy long lasting, high quality pieces way better.
  • Stop constantly trying to figure out who you are.

 

 

“Stop saying ‘yes’ out od obligation, fear or guilt.”

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Find what calms you down

For me, it is white and cleanliness. Whenever my surroundings are minimal and clean, my mind is so too. Find what makes you feal calm and find a way to surround yourself with exactly that.

Bye Bye to the toxic

Take a little moment to write down what makes you feel held back. Sometimes I get just get this stressed and overwhelmed feeling. Whenever I get that feeling, I take a moment and write down all the things that make me feel that way. It can be a person, a task, a situation, anything. Then I write down what I can do about it, and i do that, IMMEDIATELY.

Sometimes it can be hard to eliminate the toxic. Especially if it is a friend or family member. But remember, you are the only one who carries the complete responsibility over your situation.

Do one thing at a time

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Watching netflix while summarizing? Listening to a podcast while trying to finish that assignment? It is so easy to try and multitask during boring tasks. But let me tell you. Whenever you focus on one thing at a time, you will be way more focussed, get your boring task done faster and your mind will be clearer and less stressed. Taking your time to do one thing at a time may feel less productive at the time, but you’ll get way more done.

“It’s never too late to become who you should be.”

Take some time to do soulsearching

5d5072fe5fc661bc645e35f555febdd5This may sound a little too spiritual for you, and that is okay. All this means is take some time, everyday, to focus on you. Do something that get’s you in a flow where you can simply be. This way it is easier to find out what makes you truely happy and find your peace throughout life. For me it really wors to take some time to write, read or meditate. Dancing and writing also brings me in a good flow. Feel free to experiment and look for different kinds of excersizes and flows

 

 

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Know that you look absolutely amazing, whatever you wear. You don’t have to wear clothes that are in style to fit in. Wear what makes YOU feel good and confident. Less is more, and more is more. It is up to you.

These are my tips for simplifying your life. Let me know if you have any more tips!

I wish you all the stars,

-N

My happy morning routine

my blissful morning routine.

“Flow, not Force”

Routines have always been a big part of my day. I love routines and everything surrounding them. But there was always one main factor that made me resent my routines: force. I used to think that I had to force myself into doing everything that succesful people were doing and my forcing myself to do the things that didn’t bring me joy, I would start the day off in a negative mindset.

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But that all changed when I really started to understand the concept of “flow not force”. It is not about making excuses, it is about finding joy in life. So, what I decided to do is to create a new morning routine, containing only things that make me happy and make me feel calm. Let me show you what I created.

“The aim of life is happiness, not perfection.”

Now, right before we dig in to the morning routine I wanted to quickly explain something. I don’t go to work or school so I have a ton of time to have a slow morning routine. I understand that not everybody has that time so every habit I describe from my morning routine will include a tip on how to fit it into a quick schedule. Also, I highly recommend not just plain following my routine if it inspires you, but to be inspired by it and find out if there are habits that I am describing that YOU like and that make YOU feel happy. 

06:00AM

I like to wake up really early in the morning because I find that I am way more productive during the day when I had an early start. When I wake up I aways take ONE look at my phone, just to make sure nothing urgent came in at night, before putting it away until I finish my habits. 

The first 45 minutes of my morning is dedicated to cleansing. I love starting my day with a fresh clean slate.  These are my cleansing habits:

  • Water and coffee: to reset my body for a new day I like to start my day off with drinking some water. Your body hasn’t hydrated in over 8 hours so this I necessary! I find that drinking water really wakes me up and makes me feel amazing. I also like to drink a coffee in the morning. It also wakes me up and it, well, cleanses my body and makes me feel ready for a fresh new day. TIP: this one is fairly easy to include in your morning routine because it is simply a drink. But, if you don’t have time in the mornings to drink your coffee, make a homemade icecoffee and put it in your bag the night before. Then you can drink your daily caffeineboost in the car or on the train.
  • Writing: after I made my coffee, the first thingI do is grab my notebook and writeeverything down. I am a very vivid dreamer so I like to write down all my dreams and analyse them for a bit. I also like to focus on how I am feeling thatday andwhat my intentions are for the day. TIP: Writing is one way to clear your mind. If you don’t have time to write in the mornings, then self-talk could be an option to you. Actlike you’re recording a podcast and simply talk oud loud to yourself. You can also record this if you’d like to listen back. This you can do in your car, on your bike or even walking.
  • Yoga: I NEED to strech in the morning. Usually when I wake up I feel a little soar from my workout from the day before and my muscles feel really tight from barely moving for 8 hours. I like to follow my own yogaflow and really feel what my body needs at that moment, but you can also follow a Yoga Youtube-video. My strech-routine changes every day. There are days where I love streching for half an hour and really take my time, but there are also days where my streches are about 5 minutes long. remember: flow, not force. TIP: like I said, your streches can only be 5 minutes. When I have a busy morning I also like to do this when my water is boiling for my tea, when my shower is heathening up or when my coffee is in the making.
  • Meditation: I love how clear my mind feels after a meditation. Now, I am not a patient person so meditating can be a struggle for me. But just 5-10 minutes of a guided meditation makes me feel SO good. I use the app “Calm” and it is rated as one of the best mindfulness apps. I have a subscribtion, but there are also tons of free meditations you can use. TIP: meditation does not just have to be sitting with your eyes closed and breathing. The app ‘Calm’ that I am using also has walking meditations or mindfulness meditations for when you are at work. You can do this on your lunchbreak or whenever you have a second to spare.

06:45AM 

After the first part of my morning routine that focusses on cleansing, I start ‘putting in’. I know this sounds really weird but bare with me. The first part of my morning is centered about cleansing my body and my mind, and the second part is all about putting the good information and food in again. These are my ‘putting in’ (lol) habits:

  • Hot lemon water: When I start the second fase of my morning, I like to have a comforting drink with me. I love hot lemon water because it is so easy to make and it kinda feels like it is ‘coating’ my stomach. It is full of antioxidants and it prepares your body for breakfast. It is really good to have some kind of fruit first, before breakfast, to prevent bloating and stomach aching. I also find it really southing todrink something warm while doing my next habit. TIP: now I understand that if you have a busy morning, you certainly do not have time for TWO drinks. So, bring some slices of lemon with you in your lunchbox. If you go to work or school they often have an option for tea in the lunchroom. Put your lemon slices in there instead of tea and you’re good to go.
  • Reading: This is probably my favorite habit. Processed with VSCO with a6 presetI love love love to read in the morning and put positive thoughts and information into my mind. I always love to read a fiction and a non-fiction book at the same time so I don’t ‘get bored’. I read one chapter of each book in the morning and it sets me of to a good start. TIP:another way to fuel your mind with books is listening to audiobooks. I won’t start rambling on about audiobooks as I am certain that you’ve already heard about them. I also really like to listen to podcasts. My favorites are: the health code, kalyn’s coffeetalks, potterless, your own magic and the mustards.
  • Breakfast: I absolutely NEED to eat a good breakfast in the morning. I don’t have one breakfast I eat everyday, but I mainly just listen to my body and what I am craving that day. But, I always love some avocado toast, oatmeal, yoghurt or a fresh smoothie. I love to create a healthy breakfast to fuel me and get me going. I generally never crave things like chocolate or pancakes so it really isn’t that hard for me to start the day healthy. TIP: now, I’ve heard SO many people tell me that they don’t have time to make breakfast in the morning. If intermitted fasting is your thing than you should definitely do that. But if you’re like me and simply can’t go without a good breakfast then I can highly recommend you one simple thing. meal. prep. I KNOW, eyeroll , eyeroll, because you’ve probably heard it everywhere. And I understand that you don’t have the time or energy to spend your free time making meals for the whole week. But this does not have to be hard. The night before, put everything for your smoothie in a bowl. Make some simple overnight oats, or take 15 minutes to bake a simple bananabread that you can take to work every day of the week. (This recipe is Dutch but I have been making this bananabread and it is AMAZING: https://www.lekkerensimpel.com/bananencake-met-blauwe-bessen/ ).

09:00AM 

GYM-TIME: I know, you probably think: “What happened between 07:30AM and 09:00AM?!” but let me explain. After my breakfast I usually put on my workout-clothes, brush my teeth and wash my face. And then I start working on my to-do list. But at 9AM I like to go to the gym. Because I work from home, I have the freedom to make my own schedule and I always go around 9AM because that’s when a lot of people go to work and there are a lot less people at the gym. Because I live in a small village, the gym is very small. It is basically one room with all the equipment in it, so it can very easily become very crowded. I love to workout in the mornings because it gives me the endorfine-boost to go through my day with an extra big smile on my face. Also, if I postpone my workout until the evening, I most likely end up making an excuse and then not going. TIP: working-out can be quite a struggle for some people, which is totally understandable. I have the time to go to the gym and have a 60min+ workout, but if you don’t have that time HIIT work-outs are the perfect solution for you. HIIT stands for High Intensity Interval Training. HIIT workout are often short (10-20min) and keep your heartrait really high. If having an intens work-out just isn’t your thing, it may be nice to go for a walk on your lunchbreak or take the stairs a little more often. Just simple everyday things to keep moving!

After my work-out I just get ready and get on with my day. Now a little disclaimer: I do not do this every day! This is more or less a guideline for me to follow and something I naturally love doing. But if I wake up and I am super soar and feel like I just need a stretch, THEN I GO AND STRETCH. Remember, it is all about feeling good and being happy. 

So, to wrap this routine up, I highly encourage your to feel your flow and make yourself happy. If you haven’t heard this today: you are valuable by simply being you. You don’t need to achieve high standards or look a certain way to be loved and valuable to this world.

“If flowers can be beautiful by simply existing, then so can I”

I wish you all the stars,

-N.

The social war

my thoughts on the ongoing social war.

We made it through the discussion of the physical war. But I am not done, we still have got the social war to open our perspectives to. You have probably already seen it, heard it and probably even felt it a hundred times. The quotes “Be yourself” “Don’t compare yourself to people on social media” “Don’t be jealous, your succes will come in your own time” and eventhough we want to believe them, we’ve all shared an eyeroll or two when we hear yet another motivational speaker talk about it.

And yes, this too is a war. We all try to be better than the rest and we even like the competition, but only as long as we’re in the game. We’ve all felt jealous of that gorgeous Victoria’s Secret model, living in Bali and making money with wearing a coconut bikini. And because of that, we scroll through their pages, hoping to find a photo of her with a pimple, or with tanlines or whatever. And when we finally find that imperfection, we can’t f*king wait to comment it under her photo. How much would the social game change if we unanimously decided to get inspired by other people? If we stoped hoping for that bikinimodel to fail and started hoping for her to make it.

I KNOW, eyeroll, eyeroll, eyeroll. I am not trying to paint a perfect picture here. But how would you feel? If you see that pimple, and eventhough you feel jealous and want to point her imperfection out. If you instead would comment or send her a message about how inspiring you think she is, how you admire her lifestyle and if she maybe could give you some tips?

Because you won’t be focussing on the negative, eventhough your feelings may be negative, your actions are positive and so will you feel. AND if she does give you those tips, you may actually find yourself creating that life you’re dreaming about!

Focussing on the negative and jealousy, can really harm our mental health. You may not notice it right away, but through time you’ll see. I admit, I also tend to downtalk myself whenever I see someone who I FEEL LIKE is better than me. I put “i feel like” in capslock because this is not true. Just because someone has a fitter physique than me, does not mean that they are more worth, are a better person, or are less flawed, than me.

The next thing I wanted to talk about, is not just downtalking yourself TO yourself, but downtalking yourself towards others. This is something I notice all around me. In this day and age we are afraid to “try to hard” or let other people know we care too much. So, when we try something new, we are tempted to say “I am really bad at this” or “I will probably fail hahahaha.” But I actually don’t think it is that funny. You are allowed to feel confident and to trust yourself and your capabilities. Being proud at yourself does not make you a bitch and trying and failing does not make you weak. 

The social war is one everyone sees, meets and knows. But when are we starting to do something about it. Mental health is a serious issue and is just as important as your physical health. So, I hope you’ll think twice next time you start to doubt yourself because of someone elses fake reality.

I wish you all the stars,

N.

 

What we should really be scared about…

my thoughts on the real scares in this world.

Disclaimer: I respect everyones opinions and beliefs, this is my opinion and I don’t mean to provoke any harmful feelings.

It is no news that there are wars and deaths spreading over this world. Every night you watch the news, every time you check your phone, you’ll stumble onto some kind of war. Now, for me there are three kinds of wars:

  1. The physical war. The war between countries and people. The war where people are killed by one another.
  2. The social war. The war between who is better, who can show others the best that they are living the perfect life and who can make other people the worst about themselves.
  3. The individual war. The war you have with yourself on your way to becoming who you really are.

Now I will write about these wars in three separate articles. This article is about the first war, the physical war.

Lets talk about the physical war. People kill people. And why? Because of people. Now, if you would ask ANYONE, literally anyone, what their perfect world would look like. They would all say that they just want to be happy. Because that is all anyone wants. Now ofcourse there are a thousand different definitions of happy. One persons definition of happy is a lot of money and big cars, another persons definition of happy is a puppy or the smell of freshly cut grass. Ofcourse it is different. But we all crave for that feeling of joy, that feeling of fulfillment. But I wonder, why people think that they can find fulfillment in other peoples misery. 

A lot of people will call ‘hurters’ (this is how I call people who kill people) the word mental. Which I do not think is correct. People with mental disorders aren’t ‘hurters’ or ‘killers’, they are just weaker in that moment for the influence of the negativity of this world. I think that most of the ‘hurters’ are completely sane people, with just a different perspective on life. Now, do not think that I am defending them because I completely disagree with hurting people in any shape or form. But I am wondering about the reasoning behind it. Because we can protect and protect and protect the people who may get hurt, but if we never look behind the curtain to find the reason behind the hurting, than how will we ever prevent? But this is a topic for a whole other article.

And, lets not forget that even if we wouldn’t kill our own, a ton of people would still die. It is like a football-team scoring in their own goal. We are killing our own team.

Humanity has so much to fight for and fight against, and still we are decreasing our chances. Because that one person that was killed 2 seconds ago, could’ve been the one person to find out how we could live on another planet or how the universe exists.

One major life killer, actually the most dangerous animal of all, is an animal so small you’d laugh at it. But if the animal is in your room at night, it will stop you from falling asleep. You would be shaking from frustration and keep keep keep looking for it. And when you finally get the chance to catch a glimpse, you’ll know how small the chances are that you’ll catch it.

It is the mosquito.

The mosquito kills more people than people do. It also kills more people than sharks do in a century. Great leaders have suffered and died of malaria and yellow fever. And even I wouldn’t be writing this here and now, if my mother made the decision to get on a plain instead of staying in the hospital. My dad also suffered from malaria 12 times, and because of good medicine and healthcare he survived. Every two minutes a child dies from the bite of a mosquito, and I am not the only one who thinks this is too much.

This disease kills millions of people a year and instead of fighting the mosquito with all we have, we help it kill humanity. One thing you may not know, is that malaria is a disease that can be prevented. A disease that we as humans can erase from this world. So, this is why I am creating Bloody Good. We can stand tall and fight everything the world has against us, as long as we stand together.

Bloody Good is really starting now, so only a little more until we can finally launch. Stay tuned!

I will upload another article about the second war. The social war. Follow me on this blog and my social media to stay updated. 

I wish you all the stars,

N.

 

 

How to get in control

how to be a boss and get your sh*t together.

When winter comes around, I am a sucker for seasonal depression. I need my sun and my light. So, when I feel down I love to reorganize my life. These are the things I love to do to feel in control of my life again.

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Planning

Bucketlist 
Every month or every season I make myself a bucketlist. I write down everything I want to do that period, especially the things I wouldn’t normally do.

Daily planning 
Something I do everyday is planning my day. Knowing what I want to achieve and having everything written down makes me feel organized and ready to start. I also make sure to include at least one thing from my bucketlist.

Mealplanning 
There has been a lot of buzz around mealprepping lately. And I have found it really hard since I still live with my parents. Something I really like is to write down in my notes what I eat in a day. Also I look in the fridge the night before and figure out a nice and healthy breakfast that gets me excited to wake up in the morning.

Calendar 
This one is so important. I always have some kind of calendar or agenda with me. Make sure you write every appointment down so you won’t double schedule. This way you will feel much more organized and on point. This also makes sure you don’t shedule two things at the same time.

Environment

One big ass clean 
So to start off. Take one or to days to declutter EVERYTHING. If you live on your own this will take longer than when you’re living with your parents. I stil live with my parents so I only have to clean my own room. Make sure to declutter in sections. For example start with decluttering your closet. Take everything out, clean the whole closet, sort out your clothes and put everything back in. When the whole closet is done, move on to the next section. Also have one big trash bag with you so you can throw away the unwanted stuff immediately.

Twice a week whipe 
It is very important to clean your environment, and keep it clean. So pick out two days a week where you just take a cloth and some cleaning spray and have a 10 minute clean. This will help you feel organized throughout the whole week and not just after you had you spring cleaning.

Regular decluttering 
Once a month, declutter your closet and desk. Just look through what you have and what doesn’t serve you anymore. You can also put the clothes you’re not sure about in a trash bag and put it away in the garage. Set a reminder for a month later and if you haven’t felt the urge to get a piece of clothing from that bag in 4 weeks, throw it away.

Health

Workouts 
Find your thing. Everyone has their own way of working out. Working out is really good for you mental and physical health. But don’t start doing a certain workout you hate. Ofcourse I think you should experiment, and sometimes you just won’t feel like working out. But if you hate running, don’t run. For example, I love to dance. So I dance. I move my body.

Don’t caloriecount 
I never count my calories. Ain’t nobody got time for that. I do know what is going into my body and I am very aware to eat healthy foods, but calorie counting will just make you afraid of food. Instead, just write down what you eat in a day and look back at how healthy you did. Don’t feel bad if you haven’t had such an healthy day, but see where you can improve yourself.

Meditation 
This is so good for your mental health and will keep you calm through the day to slay your life. You don’t have to sit there for hours. Just a few minutes every morning will make a huge difference.

Looks

Style 
Find out what fits you. This is the fun part. You can experiment with a hundred different styles. Look at what colors suite your skintone and which materials you like to wear.

Here a few styling tips to look and feel more in control:

  • Choose good materials.
  • Don’t wear different shades of jewelry together. Choose between gold, silver or rose gold.
  • Don’t have too much going on. Choose one piece of clothing or jewelry where you want to focus the attention on.
  • Wash and iron your clothes. Never wear dirty or wrinkled clothes.
  • Clean out you bag every night so you’ll just have what you need and you won’t feel dirty.
  • Go for comfortable and stylish. Don’t wear clothes you don’t feel comfortable in cause it will show.

Hair 
Haircare is something that is been overlooked by so many people. But it is actually just as important as skincare. Have a good leave in hair oil for everyday applying. Be kind and patient and go to the hairdresser every few months.

Hygene 
Shower every day. Studies have shown that people are way more productive when they’re clean. So take a shower. Brush your teeth and do your skincare. No excuses just do it.

Mindset

Look 
Have a golden look on the world. This is your life and you, only you, are in control. See the world as a place to bloom and experience all these magical things. Make your own happy moments and opportunities.

Positivity 
Find your way to positivity. Look at your problems with a solving mindset and get the best out of every day.

Files 
We all know the struggle of losing important papers and cards and stressing out over not being able to find them. One good binder or filer will change your life. Just having one place for all of your important stuff is so important. In my binder I have the compartments: “Work” where I keep all my contracts and stuff, “Buying” where I keep all my important receipts, “Cards” where I keep all my important businesscards, etc. etc.

Thank you for reading,

To the stars and back, 


– N

How to network

key hacks I use daily to network.

When starting a business, it can be really helpful to have a team supporting you. A team of different people, with different perspectives and different values. But, how do you find those people?

It can be really hard to get out there in the first place. And if you’re eventually went out, how do you approach? I will talk a lot about how to act and what to do at networking events, but read till the end for some tips on how to find and get to networking events.

1. YES attitude

First of all it is important to grab your opportunities by the balls. Ofcourse the occasional self-care night at home is nice, but when someone invites you out, don’t say no right away. Take a moment and look at all the good things that can happen if you go out. Remember, the biggest regrets are about the things you didn’t do. This also counts for the moment someone tries to open a conversation with you. 

2. Take the risk

When it comes down to starting a conversation, just take the risk. You’re probably scared to be rejected by the other person, but the chance of being rejected is actually much smaller than you may think. Big chance that person is also waiting for someone to make a move. Not only is taking the risk worth it at specific events. You can start a conversation with the person sitting next to you on the train or someone waiting with you in line at the store. If the other person doesn’t feel like talking you’ll know soon enough and you’ve got nothing to lose. 

3. Practice wearing heels

This one obviously only counts if you’re a woman, or if you’re a man who likes to wear heels. And this one may be a long shot. But really, practice. At a networking party you want to look classy and confident, I personally always like to wear heels because they make me feel feminine and empowerd. When networking you want to be fully present in the occuring conversation and don’t want to be stumbling around with hurting feet.

4. 3 guards

When networking, have 3 guards for your mouth; nice, honesty and necessity. This means, before you say anything, ask yourself: is it nice? is it honest? and is it necessary? This way you won’t regret the things you say.  

5. Ask but tell

First of all it is really important to ask a lot. People like to talk about themselves and it makes them feel good. When someone feels good in a conversation, they will get more engaged and it will become easier. The tell part means, tell them about your dreams and about the topics the other person can help you in. For example: you’re talking to a publisher. Your dream has always been to publish a book. Ask them how the job is, what the hardest and the best parts of the job are and wether or not they always wanted to be a publisher. Then you tell him or her that it has always been a dream of yours to publish a book and what criteria you will have to fullfil. This way the publisher knows you’re interested and will be more likely to help you on your way.

6. Practice posture

It is really important to know what vibe you’re sending out. If you are standing tall and confident, people will be more tempted to come over and talk to you than when you are “hiding” yourself by crossing your arms in front of you or bowing your head. Stand tall and smile, you are worthy of being here and there is no one who can stop you from being you.

7. Bring evidence

If you are going out to network to promote your business it is really important to have evidence that you are serious. When you find that person you can help you, you want them to stick with you. So, bring a small version of the product you’re making or a businessplan. This will show the person that this is not simply an idea but a real business. For example I always carry some of the stones the artist made with me, just in case I meet someone who is interested. 

8. Bring businesscards

Like I told you, if you meet someone who seems interested in helping you, you want them to stick with you. By giving them a businesscard, it will be easier for them to contact you. Even if the other person didn’t bring a businesscard, you can write their information on the back of one of the cards. 

9. Be who you are and not who you think you should be

Certain network events can be really overwhelming. It is easy to find yourself being nervous and afraid that people won’t like you for who you are. But let me tell you, the people who don’t like you for who you are really don’t matter. The only people you can build on and grow with are the people who appreciate you for who you are. 

10. Give

Ofcourse you are at a networking event to network and find people and opinions for you business. But it is also important to help other people out. Ofcourse you shouldn’t dim your light so others can shine, but you will create a real bond with someone the moment you teach them something or help them out with a problem. If you help someone out, they will also be more likely to help you out when in need.

So, almost all of the tips above are about networking events and how to act on them. But how do you actually get to networking events? how to find them? Well, to be honest I am very fortunate to have parents who go to a lot of events and invite me with. But if you are not that fortunate here are some tips:

  1. Tell people! When you talk to your friends, family and basically anyone, tell them that you are looking for networking events and why. It is nothing to be ashamed of and maybe the person who can introduce you to the events has been right in front of you all along!
  2. Google. This one you probably could’ve thought of yourself. Google on networking events near your city and just go and check them out.
  3. Ask for help. If you admire someone, and you wonder where they go to network, just email them. You’ll be amazed at how many people really want to help you. And if that person doesn’t reply, well you’ve lost 5 minutes of your time.
  4. Like I said before, you can also just network on the train or at the local store. If you’re in school you also have a lot of people who can help you out. For me, I work at home, it can be hard to get out there and network. But if I want to get out I’ll just go for a walk or to the library. You can also discuss business at party’s. 
  5. And last, but very much not least. Network online! Make sure your social media is on point and contact people. In this time and age it is very important to have your social media together. Know your platforms and use them to tell people what you’re doing with your business. Even if you’ve only got 3 followers! If someone is interested in you or your business, they will go straight to your social media to find more about it.